tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10214458.post406741443415453671..comments2024-03-27T13:10:17.362-07:00Comments on The Luna Park Gazette: Day of Obligation Rob Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04741955202727936194noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10214458.post-70092067727295775712014-01-30T06:27:03.352-08:002014-01-30T06:27:03.352-08:00Thanks so much, Jay, I really appreciate your thou...Thanks so much, Jay, I really appreciate your thoughts on this.<br /><br />I think we've been conditioned by movies and TV to expect this ideal, loving relationships with our parents, whereas reality can be a lot more complicated.<br /><br />We all wish we could have done a better job with our parents. But all we have is now and we have to make the most of it.<br /><br />Take care!Rob Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04741955202727936194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10214458.post-80247888866520804592014-01-30T01:38:07.833-08:002014-01-30T01:38:07.833-08:00Oh, it's so painful, isn't it? When the r...Oh, it's so painful, isn't it? When the relationship is a difficult one, guilt is the overriding emotion after a loss - and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it except try to understand what went wrong and ... well, just try to be a better person in the present, if you can.<br /><br />I didn't have a close relationship with my Dad. He was an admirable man in most ways but didn't seem good at relating with growing children at all. I can see this looking back, but of course at the time I felt it was all my fault. I had a closer relationship with Mum, but as she aged it got strained for various reasons. I can 'feel' her anniversary approaching just as you describe, and every year get riddled with guilt and depression because I could have, should have done this or that and been more understanding. <br /><br />I think the bottom line is that very few people have that ideal child/parent relationship that leaves them feeling a great sense of personal loss and grief but no guilt or pain when they die. I think guilt and pain are a big part of it for most of us.Jay at The Depp Effecthttp://www.thedeppeffect.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10214458.post-2755546357424044102014-01-27T06:57:19.148-08:002014-01-27T06:57:19.148-08:00Oh, thank you so much, Bijoux.
I think it's i...Oh, thank you so much, Bijoux.<br /><br />I think it's important to recognize this pain and then make a sincere effort to move on and not let it weigh you down.Rob Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04741955202727936194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10214458.post-78988314076519156302014-01-27T03:27:27.155-08:002014-01-27T03:27:27.155-08:00Rob, so sorry for your pain. Relationships with pa...Rob, so sorry for your pain. Relationships with parents just seem difficult for most. Bijouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05788630004051883635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10214458.post-72501538751017429072014-01-27T03:06:46.165-08:002014-01-27T03:06:46.165-08:00Hey, Ron, thanks so much for your thoughts on this...Hey, Ron, thanks so much for your thoughts on this most sensitive issue.<br /><br />"The love they had for us and the love we had for them. And that love continues."<br /><br />That's so beautifully put and so incredibly true. It gives me a new way of looking at my relationship with my father. <br /><br />And, as you say, all the other stuff really isn't important.<br /><br />Thanks so much, buddy. Have a great week!Rob Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04741955202727936194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10214458.post-50412549432003536472014-01-26T20:54:58.393-08:002014-01-26T20:54:58.393-08:00Rob, beautifully expressed post Truly beautiful.
...Rob, beautifully expressed post Truly beautiful.<br /><br />And I love how you concluded it...<br /><br />"I can’t do undo the past; I can’t go back in time and make things better between us. But I’m thankful he was there to lead me out of smoky rooms."<br /><br />You're right, we can't. Yet, I truly believe that those who pass on have an expanded consciousness, seeing the overall picture of what was. And that THEY, like US, did the best we could at that time. And that all they feel now is the LOVE. The love they had for us and the love we had for them. And that love continues.<br /><br />Your relationship with your father is somewhat similar to the relationship I had with my father - it wasn't as close as our mothers.<br /><br />Yet, all I can remember now about my father is how much he loved me - and I him.<br /><br />All the other stuff is not important.<br /><br />Just the love we shared.<br /><br />Again, beautifully expressed post, buddy.<br /><br />Have a faaaaaabulous week! Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15977027331657615697noreply@blogger.com